I had a person the other day, hand to God, who got upset at me because I don’t “like” enough of their Facebook posts, even though they “like” all of mine. There is a theory that in any given situation, 80% of the outcomes come from 20% of the inputs. It has been called the … [Read more...] about 80/20 Relationships
Note: I posted a similar set of rules on my Facebook page. As always, I want to make sure that spaces I curate are as safe as possible for everyone involved. - HH I don’t think you can really build a community – I only think you can create a space for communities to build … [Read more...] about Community Rules
I have trouble sleeping. I always have. I don’t usually have trouble going to sleep. I get sleepy about the same time every night, I turn out the light and drift off to sleep within 10 minutes or so. It’s the staying asleep that is a problem. Usually about three or four … [Read more...] about Sleeping through the night
You might fail. You could have to begin again. They may laugh at you. Perhaps they will misunderstand you. People you thought were friends will abandon you - in the end, we all die alone. The plans could fall through. It might not be as good as you … [Read more...] about It might not work.
I don’t journal. Maybe that makes me the badboy in the progressive spirituality circles, but there you go. It isn’t that I have anything against journaling, per se. It just never worked for me, and I never can manage to keep up the habit. I have a row of partially used … [Read more...] about My logbook
Friends, This is a pretty uncomfortable post to write. But that is sorta my point. I have a pretty amazing gig in my day job as pastor of Love Wins Ministries. But I do a lot of other stuff, too. I have a blog, where I publish posts several times a week about how to … [Read more...] about Help me create a better world
I was a sickly child. When I was 18 months old, I had spinal meningitis. It damn near killed me. I was in a coma for weeks, and my heart stopped beating for a while and when it was all said and done, I was alive but had seizures and some brain damage and a neurologist that … [Read more...] about Survival
As a child, we had some neighbors – Montaree (we called her Montie) and Mr. Doc. They were retired farmers who had bought a few acres from us and built a small house to live out their retirement. They were surrogate grandparents to me, and I loved them intensely. They were … [Read more...] about The best self-care advice anyone ever gave me
For more than two years now, I have sent out an email on Monday mornings, containing a few thoughts of mine, along with links to five things I thought were beautiful. I call it The Hughsletter. This post recounts how it all happened, but basically, I wanted a medium more … [Read more...] about What two years of publishing a weekly newsletter taught me
Like most of the country, I saw the eclipse yesterday. As I child, I remember the much less impressive annular eclipse from 1984 when I was 12. In that pre-internet era, it is hard to believe we heard about it at all, but we did. I remember watching the news – the TV news, the … [Read more...] about We have a lot of work to do.