Being new in town, I am still discovering the good coffee shops. I have learned over the years that not everyone values the same things I do in a coffee shop, and so you can’t just take anyone’s word for it – you have to investigate for yourself. So when I walked into the shop, I […]
Self-change
The journey to becoming an LGBT ally and advocate: Part 1
“How did you become such a fierce LGBT advocate?” The other night, a high school classmate sent me that question on Facebook Messenger. I haven’t spoken to this person in years and years, and as the question was out of the blue, it caught me by surprise. It has been years since someone asked me […]
One change at a time
As I mentioned before, I am in a time of new routines, and as a result I broke one of my cardinal rules for managing my ADHD – only make one change at a time. You see this a lot at the beginning of the year. People will decide to change their eating habits, join […]
Sitting in the dark with a friend. Again.
It was Tuesday morning, and I had just gotten to work when I got the call. It was Nessie, Lena’s daughter. “Momma died this morning, Hugh. Can you come over to the house? We are waiting for the funeral home.” “Of course. I will be right there.” It’s never convenient. It’s never easy. It never […]
It starts with a decision
Some of the best advice I ever got was to focus on the behaviors that got the results, rather than the results themselves. You don’t focus on cardiac health, you focus on doing aerobic exercise regularly. You don’t focus on dental hygiene, but on brushing your teeth every day. You don’t focus on writing a […]